I didn’t know how much money to ask my husband for. And I should have known immediately how much I should want/need Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. Subreddit Announcements Happy Anniversary, AITA!AITA: I told my FIL that his wife, my MIL, keeps asking us for money. Not the A-hole. Throwaway. My (33f) and my husband Matteo (31m) have been married for 4 months, together for 3 years. When we were dating his mom used to randomly call him up and ask for money, anywhere from 2-6 thousand dollars. He told me that she had been doing it for ...You’re so disrespectful, selfish and evil. YTA. Divorcing him is the nicest thing you can do. Give him a chance to find someone who would love and value him. This cannot be real…. I (27f) have been with my husband for 8 years. We were high school sweet hearts and was even voted so in the yearbook.When your husband tells you to calm down, maybe you should listen. Eek. Just saying that was painful. And I’m sure I just majorly violated girl code. Fudge. Well, I&r...My cousin’s husband owes my husband six figures and he asked to borrow an additional £10,000. I admittedly only found out because I eavesdropped on their conversation. After my cousin’s husband left, I asked my husband if my cousin knew he owed him so much money. My husband told me she didn’t and that I shouldn’t get involved.OP, what your husband’s sister called you with is total BS and you shouldn’t give into that at all. The house and family you take care of is also your husband’s and the money he earns is also yours. You husband is spending the money he brings home and your inheritance like you owe him - you don’t.It's my medical event. It's my body. It's my delivery/birth journey. Me, me, me, me, me. I, I, I, I, I. It's all about me—the pregnant woman and anything I say goes even though I didn't make this baby on my own and will damn well insist that the other (male) parent provide 50% of the care (emotional, financial, etc.)When my husband and I got married we thought it was only fair to share the college fund even though my ex husbands mother was the one who created it. Kinda like here we consider you family type of thing. My daughter was more furious with me that I was already talking about this while my mother is still alive.When I presented the plans to my husband he said that we could go to more cities in Italy and he could help me edit pictures for my photography blog. However, he also said that he needed to have meetings and do administrative housekeeping and he needed to do it in person. I was disappointed and he got upset and asked me to stop rolling my eyes. I told …Listen, your husband sounds a lot like mine with his family until I put my foot down. Absolutely no back one. This sh1t should have stopped a long time ago. At this point, your husband is just as much to blame for tolerating being treated like sh1t for so long. You need to accept, as did I, that he will get nowhere in life being a doormat ...AITA for telling my husband I decide where we live cause I'll earn more . ... His earning potential is $100,000 - $150,000. Mine is $250,000 - $350,000. Edit 2: He has since apologized again, said that "we were both under a lot of stress and said things that we didn't mean", and that he does seem to understand where I am coming from re: earning ...So a quick little backstory. My husband (21M) and his brother (25M) have always had a great relationship. His brother moved away when he was younger and even though they're now 2 hours apart, they still regularly talk and play games online together. My husband is one of six kids and they all are still in contact and on good terms.AITA For Not Telling My Girlfriend About My Saving. admin May 3, 2024 AITA. : ob_end_flush (): Failed to send buffer of zlib output compression (0) in on line.Whenever I ask my husband to talk to his sister about the money he loaned her, he would tell me to chill and change the topic immediately. When I corner him, he would tell me that it's a small amount and he won't lose his sleep over it, and ask me to drop the topic altogether. It got to a point where I felt I should step in and ask her myself ...ADMIN MOD. AITA for not telling my boyfriend I won money 15 years ago? Not the A-hole. I don't know what I did wrong or if what I did is wrong and I need some advice. I didn't want to post this on my real account because I'd like to be as anonymous as possible. My boyfriend (35m) and I (35f) were discussing finances as we wanted to be on ...GlumMushroom9804. ADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my wife to return it all. Asshole. My pregnant wife (26f) and I (35m)are really struggling at the moment as I lost my job and my wife had to quit her job as she's suffering from hyperemesis gravidarum. We've used up our savings and currently are living off our credit cards but I've got a job ...So, what both you and your husband did here was right. Ans he has all the right to be upset of the fact that his child does not feel comfortable with him. And note this, upset over the fact, not on you nor your child, but the situation. He will be the AH here if he projects that frustration on you or the child. Indeed.Read this before contacting the mod team. My husband (27M) and myself (28M) have had a pretty rough year financially. We moved to a new city, and both ended up taking lower paying jobs than usual, and have had a hard time budgeting with our new salaries. So, for Christmas we promised we would cut back on gifts for each other, setting a $50 ...She asked wether or not my husband took money from his family before they attended the cookout. I was confused I asked what she was talking about and she told me that my husband charged every single person from my side of family who attended the event $25 dollars. I was utterly shocked and very angry and felt like this has legitimately damaged …A year later I start dating my now husband. His business started raking in a lot of profits soon after we met. After we married, I kept my friendship to Marie even though she wasn't part of the Santa Barbara scene. My husband retired my mom after we got married. He also funded my boutique business. However, he is someone who gets bored easily.For my mom and for the women he cheated on her with, it was about just getting what he wanted: children because his first wife who he cheated on then with my mom when he first met my mom couldn't have children. My mom gave my dad two sons, eldest dying so I just have one older brother, and me, who he wanted to abort because I was a girl!My grandma took me to get ice cream and I explained everything. What happened in my last post as well as everything else that's been going on this past year. She agrees with a lot of you guys that my mom is probably being abused and needs help. We're looking into options for groups and stuff that'll help her out, though my grandma's doing most ...AITA for telling my husband to talk to his mother re: our newborn. My husband and I just had our first child together after a couple years of trying and dealing with infertility. Our son came early, a month and a half - we spent three weeks in the NICU and it was a very emotional time for me/us. Fast forward and we are now home and getting used ...ADMIN MOD. AITAH For telling my husband's secret? My (29f) husband, Charles (30m) went to his brother, Frank's (28m) bachelor party last weekend. Frank's fiancée, Jess (26f) was very vocal about her boundaries. She did not want him to go to a strip club because she finds it disrespectful and unnecessary. Jess is a very good friend of mine and ...AITA for telling my husband. My money is mine? (r/AmITheAsshole)Source: Zealousideal_Fly4786 on Reddit (link removed because YouTube keeps dinging me for lin...AITA for telling my husband to not lend money to flatmates? Not the A-hole. My husband (34M) and I (29M) live in a shared house, because we just moved countries and that's the only option available to us at the moment. We have a flatmate (31F) with whom we never had any problems, she's even became a friend, and the relationship with her is ...AITA asked my wife to help with the kids? My wife (Lisa) and I both 30s have 3 kids under 5. ... I've got a 1.5yo and 2.5yo and my husband has been away several times for 3-4 days with his mates. 2 weeks is a stretch but men do go away despite their spouses asking please stay home with me and the kids 😂 ... AITA for telling my brother to ...ADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my husband he works for himself, not for our family. Not the A-hole. My husband and I have known each other for 6 years and been married for almost 3 years now. We have a one year old, and we're expecting another baby. Our marriage has been full of emotional highs, we love each other and let the other know regularly.Context and a very short version- when I was 17 I was in a relationship with my twin brothers best friend Jake it lasted 8 years till we were all finished collage and my ex had gotten enough money off his extremely religious parents to get a head start in life If you don’t know were this is going my brother and Jake were together the whole time and …When me (f40) and my husband (m39) joined finances, my husband had a more stable salary and I was still studying but working part time. So we decided that we will try to live on his salary leaving mine for university fees, and other extras.My husband has known Clara since she was a baby and he treats her like his own little sister. Her family had a lot of financial problems, while my husband has a very high earning career. He says he felt guilty letting her struggle while he has all this money he doesn’t use. Clara's home life was very dysfunctional, especially after her mom ...My husband (30M) and I (29F) have been married for 2 years and I am currently 36-weeks pregnant with our first child. There's a lot of things going on in our lives right now. My mom is currently staying with us because she's going to be in the delivery room with me for the birth and also staying with us for a couple months after to help out. On top of everything else, …Life in gold rush towns and encampments was economically and physically difficult for miners. Many had spent their life savings or borrowed money to travel to find their fortunes. ...I looked at the $100 and told her I wanted a replacement coat or the amount it currently cost so that I can buy a new one and that $100 won’t cover it. She said he went to the store and it cost $700 now but she knew I only paid $100 for it so she told him $100 would cover the cost. I argued that $100 doesn’t buy me a new coat.Because of this my husband convinced himself I make them with “fake” milk/butter/whatever, and says they taste “off,” when I’m literally just following package directions and making the standard Ghirardelli dark chocolate brownies from the box. People really do get in their heads about this ish.Mansplaining - Wikipedia. 21 August 2013 - Mansplaining (a blend word of man and the informal form splaining of the gerund explaining) is a pejorative term meaning " (for a man) to comment on or explain something, to a woman, in a condescending, overconfident, and often inaccurate or oversimplified manner".A few days ago my wife (28) and I (30) found out that she's pregnant. We had been trying for about a year after she had experienced a miscarriage of a pregnancy that we hadn't planned. We are both obviously super happy and excited to become parents. So yesterday I went out to lunch with my mom and I told her the news, to which she was thrilled ...Tell husband that his words were disrespectful of both our marriage and our home. Tell daughter that if I am acting as a caregiver instead of her mother, I will have equal say in parenting decisions. Since husband has implied I am her caregiver but doesn't allow me to make parenting decisions in my household, I will no longer act as a caregiver.Because of this my husband convinced himself I make them with "fake" milk/butter/whatever, and says they taste "off," when I'm literally just following package directions and making the standard Ghirardelli dark chocolate brownies from the box. People really do get in their heads about this ish.Yup as a married woman myself you “leave and cleave” meaning you leave your family of origins and cleave to the family you create with your spouse. And as a married man you do the same. Actually. the Bible says that that’s what the man is supposed to do, so he’s even more responsible for it.ADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my mom's husband I'm so glad he didn't get to name me? Not the A-hole. My mom and her husband are expecting a baby together. I'm 17F and was my mom's only child until she got pregnant. Her husband has no kids. So some context on this: My name is a bit of a sore issue with my mom.AITA for telling my husband his “fragile masculinity” is costing us money? Back in late 2021, my husband Craig (M46) and I (F44) welcomed our fourth child into the world. As a result, we needed to upgrade one of our cars to something larger. We decided to trade in my super reliable Toyota RAV4 for something bigger since I was the one who ...I wanted her to agree to ground our daughter from social media and make her get a job to pay for the damage. We argued for hours until she said I don't get a say in any punishment because I'm not her father. That ended the argument and I walked off. Since then I've checked out of any parental duties.AITA for telling my husband his "fragile masculinity" is costing us money? Back in late 2021, my husband Craig (M46) and I (F44) welcomed our fourth child into the world. As a result, we needed to upgrade one of our cars to something larger. We decided to trade in my super reliable Toyota RAV4 for something bigger since I was the one who ...throwaway-36928. AITA for telling my ex his lack of money is not my issue? Not the A-hole. I (36F) have a daughter Sadie (12) with my ex-husband John (39). We got divorced 5 years ago and I have primary custody while he sees her two weekends a month. Last year, he got married to Amanda who has sole custody of her kids (10&8F) from a previous ...AITA for telling my husband to not lend money to flatmates? Not the A-hole. My husband (34M) and I (29M) live in a shared house, because we just moved countries and that's the only option available to us at the moment. We have a flatmate (31F) with whom we never had any problems, she's even became a friend, and the relationship with her is ...Meet your three-year-old stepson. By the way, I'm in the picture, too.". I confront my husband again and he admits to the affair and this child. I don't know what angered me more—the affair or the fact that he hid it for three years. This man had the audacity to come home to me every night after playing around with her.When her brother needed help, it's I who gave him money. Why? Because they are MY in-laws, and he's MY brother-in-law. I think it's my responsibility to look after their parents. She thinks it's her responsibility to look after mine in another way. It's absolutely NOT one-sided on my part. My wife Lisa and I have been together for a while. She ...r/AmItheAsshole. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole.I [33F] recently married my husband [30M] and we took a 3 hour flight to Mexico for our honeymoon. I fly a lot for my job, so I have racked up a lot of miles. My husband isn't a big fan of flying, though he has gotten better and tends to just hold my hand and close his eyes during take off and landing (mostly okay when in the air).Even if my husband made all the money in the world? I still wouldn't want to stay at home. I love my work, but don't particularly care for housework. Not every working mom is working because their husband doesn't make enough cash, and even if you make a cool million there's no guarantee you'll have a stay at home wife.When my husband and I got married we thought it was only fair to share the college fund even though my ex husbands mother was the one who created it. Kinda like here we consider you family type of thing. My daughter was more furious with me that I was already talking about this while my mother is still alive.My husband and I do Easter baskets for one another, and this year he gave me mine early since I’ll be gone. In the basket was the usual, dark choco bunny, Starburst jelly beans, and then some Swiftie stuff from Etsy, a fidget toy, and really surprisingly he got me three full bottles of perfumes that were on my wish list.This is the way - my parents did the same thing. I stayed in school and ended up breaking up with my ex-fiancée my senior year of college after almost 3 years of dating. Looking back, it was an excellent call by my parents - he was way too much of a Mama's Boy, and I did end up finishing my degree. Bulletin dodged.It’s just the dynamics of Saturday that is my issue. poweller65. Just start taking Emma. If your wife pushes back, tell her that you and Emma need father daughter time. She and Jennifer can take Harper to do something with them. Focus on the fact that Emma needs you and needs that one on one time with you.My wife is a lawyer. Now I love my wife and she loves me (obviously) but her family hatess me. Like from the depths of their souls, hates me. I've been called a gold-digger, a low-life and a few more vague insults on my table-manners. I went to a 'party' with her the other day, one of those fancy shmancy things where everyone drinks cHaMpAgNe ...For my mom and for the women he cheated on her with, it was about just getting what he wanted: children because his first wife who he cheated on then with my mom when he first met my mom couldn't have children. My mom gave my dad two sons, eldest dying so I just have one older brother, and me, who he wanted to abort because I was a girl!AITA for telling my husband I don't want my MIL helping him. So some back story. My (25F) husband (28M) is an addict. He's been sober a couple times, has relapsed a few times. He has a very addictive personality. He will develop an addiction to just about anything. Pills, porn, gambling, gaming, etc. he just recently relapsed on pills again ...Read this before contacting the mod team. My husband (27M) and myself (28M) have had a pretty rough year financially. We moved to a new city, and both ended up taking lower paying jobs than usual, and have had a hard time budgeting with our new salaries. So, for Christmas we promised we would cut back on gifts for each other, setting a $50 ...AITA for telling my daughter if she pays for her sisters college then I will stop "favoring" her with my money . Not the A-hole ... My husband and I have been scrambling to give as much money as possible to Grace since she really got screwed over. Even with all our help she still needs to take out student loans.Right so onto the current issue. BM has for as long as I know my hubby been a bit fo a problem and I'll give you a lot of time examples. Lied about the kiddo being deathly ill and on life support. Provided a fake hospital bill in regard to the above. Lied to my FIL about hubby paying child support so she was receiving money from both my hubby ...ADMIN MOD. AITA for not telling my boyfriend I won money 15 years ago? Not the A-hole. I don't know what I did wrong or if what I did is wrong and I need some advice. I didn't want to post this on my real account because I'd like to be as anonymous as possible. My boyfriend (35m) and I (35f) were discussing finances as we wanted to be on ...Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: (1) Refusing to accommodate sister and her husband (2) "Ruining" their Christmas. Help keep the sub engaging!Ive 38F been married to my husband Rob 52M for 4 years now. My husband's late wife died 1 year before we met and we dated for 2 years before …8.7K Likes, 189 Comments. TikTok video from redditlisa (@redditlisa): “AITA for telling my husband. My money is mine? #storytime #reddit #redditstories #fyp #story #viral #AITA”. …AITA for telling my husband his "fragile masculinity" is costing us money? Back in late 2021, my husband Craig (M46) and I (F44) welcomed our fourth child into the world. As a result, we needed to upgrade one of our cars to something larger. We decided to trade in my super reliable Toyota RAV4 for something bigger since I was the one who ...My wife was ordered to go to anger management, therapy, and parenting classes. Ava was brought back to us 3 times but every time she was brought back she'd run away or raise hell until she got to stay with her aunt. My wife's sister got full custody because of that. My wife has been trying to fix her relationship with Ava since the incident.AITA for asking my husband if we can give money to his parents? I newly married to a family whose culture is extremely different to ours. Ours is very open about everything, i.e. issues at work, problems at home, etc. while my husband is more of the introvert, keep-it-yourself guy. His family seems to also have a lot of unspoken rules and ...When my husband and I got married we thought it was only fair to share the college fund even though my ex husbands mother was the one who created it. Kinda like here we consider you family type of thing. My daughter was more furious with me that I was already talking about this while my mother is still alive.My grandma took me to get ice cream and I explained everything. What happened in my last post as well as everything else that's been going on this past year. She agrees with a lot of you guys that my mom is probably being abused and needs help. We're looking into options for groups and stuff that'll help her out, though my grandma's doing most ...ADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my parent's that I'm not taking care of them when they get old. Not the A-hole. My mom hit me with the question a few weeks ago, I said no, and they kinda gave me a hard time about it. I've been slightly NC with my family for almost a decade - although I don't think they're aware of it.This has been my mantra for years. Mental illness or a diagnosis can be a reason for behavior, but it's not an excuse. Maybe it's not always reasonable to expect a person to be able to change that behavior, but it is perfectly reasonable for someone to say "this is not behavior I'm willing to tolerate in a friend/partner" whether that behavior is just kind of …My husband has a history of mental health concerns surrounding depression and anxiety. He is medicated and although saw a therapist for a decade, he does not see one now. ... AITA for telling my dad that I'm still traumatized from my past to the point where I don't even want to talk to him anymore.AITA for telling my husband he needs to move on? My (F29) husband (M27) lost his mom about 4 months ago to skin cancer. Of course, he was devastated considering him and his mom were extremely close. She was a single mom and raised him all alone so their bond was incredible.Yup as a married woman myself you "leave and cleave" meaning you leave your family of origins and cleave to the family you create with your spouse. And as a married man you do the same. Actually. the Bible says that that's what the man is supposed to do, so he's even more responsible for it.PEA demonstrated potential uplift in production and reduction in cash costsNICOSIA, CYPRUS / ACCESSWIRE / March 24, 2023 / Atalaya Mining Plc (AIM... PEA demonstrated potential upl...Tell your husband that he still has to pay 60% rent that you will put away for any repairs that come along that that way he still has extra money from the lower rent. If he refuses …Background: I (35) am married to my husband (37) of 6 years and working mother (nurse) of 3 kids. We were at my inlaws house for thanksgiving dinner and every family member was able to make it. We were at dinner table when my BIL started talking about his girlfriend's new fond hobby which is "dancing" and said she's been dancing for him every ...My husband (38M) and I (39F) have been happily married for a little over 2 years. We own a home and do quite well for ourselves financially. He generally maintains the finances for our family. My husband’s mother and sister live a few hours away and I have always felt they were very abusive towards him. They speak down to him, disrespect him ...A little back story. My wife and I met at 21. We've been very happy together every since. We got married at 28 when she was pregnant with our daughter. I work full time in a very high stress but lucrative field. My wife stays home to take care of our little girl and the household. We are both 33.AITA for telling my husband. My money is mine? (r/AmITheAsshole)Source: Zealousideal_Fly4786 on Reddit (link removed because YouTube keeps dinging me for lin...Suspicious_Exam_3842. AITA for telling my husband to choose his PlayStation over our marriage…. Advice Needed. I (34F) have been with my husband (41M) for 15 years and married for 11 years of those years. We have a 7 year old daughter. We have sex maybe once a year since our daughter was born. I'm always the one that has to initiate any ...Asshole. Throwaway. I (F32) have been married to Omar (M33) for the past two years. Overall, he's a wonderful guy. He's caring, smart, funny—you name it. However, since we got married, I've been a bit bothered by his money spending habits. Simply put, I feel that Omar gives too much money to his parents (F68 and M71).I’d be a little salty if my husband voluntarily took on a second job, likely dropping some responsibility on me while he was at it, and spent his time elsewhere not because we needed the money to survive but because he liked fancy things. At that point I’d feel like I was just there to pay my half of the bills so he could divert more money to his amazon …Skm8315. ADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my husband that my inheritance is mine to do what I want with it. Asshole. My parents are up in age, my mother is dying and my dad is ok but doesn't have too many years left. My parents have money and my siblings and I will get a healthy inheritance. My husband comes from a family that will leave this ...My husband makes 150k+ a year but decides where every dollar and cent goes. 50% to day-to-day expenses, 25% to the children's education savings, 10% to family savings, 7.5% to his personal spending and 7.5% to my personal spending. Any bonus he makes or money back from taxes goes immediately into retirement.After we got married, I moved into his on a temporary, AITA for telling my boyfriend to not use my money. Not the A-hole. Me (23F) and my boyfr, Unique_Confusion9528. MOD. AITA for telling my wife my job has to come before hers? Not the A-hole. Background: Me (35m), Whenever I ask my husband to talk to his sister about the money he loaned her, he would tell me to chill a, Jolly_Ad3178. AITA for letting my husband leave and ruining MIL's family photos? Not the A-hole. , The type of dress that OP wants his fiance to buy are actually worth 50-100 dollars because they'r, This has been my mantra for years. Mental illness or a diagnosis can b, AITA: for yelling at my husband that my cancer isn&#x, Recently, my daughter started an affair with a wealthy 25-year-, Jan 11, 2024 · If they do they lose the business. The , This is the exact reason why my husband and I keep separa, My husband has always stood up for me in these scenari, The route of “tell my husband to quit his longstanding family a, ADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my “brother” if his kids go h, When your husband tells you to calm down, maybe you should li, 1.) Telling my husband he was being selfish by buying tickets to , NTA. I am mad for you. What a shitty bunch of in-laws, and I i, There was a teen in my old neighborhood who I used to.